How Porn Will Destroy Your Life
Why in the heck would I talk about PORN on a website about lifestyle design and entrepreneurship you might ask. I’ll tell you why. It has to do with integrity, and you can’t have that when your pants are around your ankles while you are typing away with one hand. Not only that, if you are busy downloading and watching porn everyday, that is time you are losing from your entrepreneurial endeavors.
The simple truth is that we as men all struggle with porn at some point or another. For some, it is just a brief encounter, and for others, it is an overwhelming struggle. Let’s be honest here. Everyone knows where to find it, and most of us are smart enough to keep it hidden. Heck, we all know the real reason why there is InPrivate browsing now. It is so we can look at porn without getting caught. It is the social norm now. Porn viewing is considered “cool”. Soft porn is everywhere, especially in advertising, even more so if you live in Europe.
So whats the big deal then? Porn doesn’t hurt anyone. Porn is Cool, right?
WRONG!
Porn destroys lives.
Reality Check
Now listen to me carefully here. Porn is like beer. One drink won’t destroy your life, but consuming large amounts over and over again on a regular basis will lead to all kinds of problems. Alcoholism and liver damage, for example; but even one to many drinks before a stint behind the wheel can destroy your and others lives, forever.
Watching Porn doesn’t make you a man or make you cool. In fact, it makes you a pervert. YES A PERVERT. It is a cheap substitute for the real thing. I’m sure porn makes you feel like a man. After all, the woman is there on the screen, ready, waiting, and you always satisfy her. But the truth is it is still fake. You’ve still got your junk your hand.
Porn also devalues woman and how you see them. Let enough porn in, and it will destroy many, if not all, of your relationships. Think about it: you are a married man, and you masturbate to pictures of thin, 20 yr-old woman everyday. It is not long before you are comparing your wife to those images. Your wife will become unattractive to you because she isn’t the ideal fantasy you have been feeding into your brain. You begin to devalue the woman most important in your life. If you are single, you will start seeing all women as objects to satisfy your every desire, and you will be unable to develop meaningful relationships. Think about it, do you think your wife or girlfriend wants to compete with what’s on the internet?
Porn is a selfish addiction. It’s all about YOU getting YOURSELF off.
Bad For Business
Let’s think this one out. You’re a young entrepreneur. You want to build a successful lifestyle, but many entrepreneurs don’t give a second thought to their character or integrity. This is the reason why this country has such a problem with it’s leaders; most of our nation’s leaders are lacking character and integrity. For many, it is alright to have affairs, mistresses and to take deals behind closed doors. It’s private business they say. But let’s think this through, a man who thinks it is alright to take a vow to his wife, and then have an affair might think it’s ok to take money and bribes to vote a certain way. You’re private life does reflect how you will behave in public and how you will make decisions.
Today, being a player or a pimp is idolized. There is even a show about guys who call themselves pickup artists who use cheap tricks to sleep with as many woman as they can. The porn industry is a 6 billion dollar industry, and that industry teaches us it is a perfectly natural, human behavior.
I beg to differ. Viewing porn is secretly degrading your moral integrity. Remember when people use to tell you smoking was a gate-way drug? It doesn’t always lead to you doing LSD, and viewing porn won’t mean you’ll end up a child molester or serial rapist. But I will argue that it erodes something of your character every time you view it.
To be completely honest, I wish I could put together a better article on porn because I have strong feelings on the subject. Many men are seriously addicted to it. I’m not sure when I started looking at it, around age 15-16 I believe, and for a long time it was almost a daily thing. I had several girlfriends break up with me over my porn viewing. It wasn’t until I stopped being so utterly seflish and gave my life to Christ that this addiction stopped. From time to time, I will admit, I’ve had it crop back up. The temptation is always there, but you can get help.
I know people and I am sure you have heard of people, getting fired over viewing pornography at work. I believe it challenges your integrity as a man.
Oh, and to show you what PORN does to woman, view this video and visit the below sites.
Listen to Shelley Lubben Tell the Hard Core Truth of What Woman are subjected to as a Porn Actress. (NSFW)
Please visit and support Shelly. She saves girls from the porn industry and the abuse they suffer. She also posts true stories and video interviews of former porn stars who leave the industry.
http://www.shelleylubben.com/ & http://www.pinkcorss.com
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Interesting post Michael, yes I believe anything addicting whether good in nature or bad can destroy people’s lives.
Got to completely disagree with you here.
Porn gives horny men who can’t get any a way to relieve themselves.
Porn gives guys in long distance relationships a way to clear their head when they haven’t gotten any from their girlfriend in a while.
Porn teaches young, inexperienced teens how to have sex
“Porn” doesn’t have anything to do with being a player or a pimp. Men have needs, and when men can’t get any and they’re sexually frustrated, many bad things can happen.
Addiction to anything is bad. I agree that an addiction to porn ruins lives. So does an addiction to alcohol, to sex, to shopping, or any other addiction.
Nice post to generate some “buzz”.
- Jun
Wasn’t really my intent to generate buzz, it’s just something I’ve been wanting to state my opinion about publicly for awhile.
Mike,
I’m not able to view the video from work, so I’ll have to watch it from home. Interesting topic, porn is viewed mostly harmless.
I was a bit anxious to view this at work, hehe.
Thanks for the comments guys, no one really seems to agree with me on this subject. And I’m personally considering taking down this article. Two things have changed my thought process on writing this week, which is why my writing is slowing down.
Thanks for passing along the Shelley videos. She’s great. She wrote some guests posts for our blog about the porn industry. Very sad:
http://www.covenanteyes.com/blog/2008/10/28/ex-porn-star-tells-the-truth-about-the-porn-industry/
Hey, you devalue the right of porn artists to express themselves.
Maybe there is an industry that exploits people, but that could be said about other industries too. Maybe some consume things in unhealthy excess, but this could also be said about computer games and junk food.
However, there are also many people who are very passionate about expressing themselves and their sexuality. Sex and Passion is a part of human life, and like many aspects of life, there is a certain desires to share ones views, ideas and experiences via means of artistic expression, be it acting, in theaters and movies or stories.
Love, sex, passion, raw and animalistic desire, are all human traits, and they can be done responsible, positive and in consensual happiness.
Well in reply to that, while I do agree with artistic expression and because I am a constitutionalist I believe people have a right to view crap. I still think it’s crap.
However, there are some types of child porn and rape porn and other sick things that some people consider art, maybe we should allow those things too? I can agree with you on some of that, but you have to realize that there are very degrading and damaging areas of human desire. That’s why we have sex trafficking and everything else going on. And the porn industry tries to hide all the bad elements, they don’t want people thinking about the number of STD’s these people are getting or how many are addicted to drugs or who have been sexually abused.
Mike, I don’t see this article an attack on my rights for artistic expression as a creative. It would appear to me that the point you are making here is there is another, less glamorous side, to porn… one that IS hurting people. Sex is a wonderful expression, one that I believe God gave us for a LOT more than procreation of the species. However, I know many people personally who have been ruined by their addiction to this “harmless” activity. I have seen it destroy careers, the lives of men and women, etc. I for one, feel that helping us realize that there are two sides to the coin is a healthy perspective and I commend you for having the guts to share the “other” side.