Comments on: Porn Will Destroy Your Life http://www.mikekey.com/how-porn-will-destroy-your-life/ Adventure Seeker, Entrepreneur, WordPress Guru Fri, 13 Jan 2012 02:09:48 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Louis http://www.mikekey.com/how-porn-will-destroy-your-life/#comment-600 Louis Fri, 13 Jan 2012 02:09:48 +0000 http://www.mikekey.com/?p=412#comment-600 Right on Dude. Your words are very encouraging for someone that is trying to get away from porn. Letting people know that the time they spend with porn or any addiction is damaging. I like how you point out how people can do much more constructive things. I have a side business that I always wanted to go full time. And now I realize that the time I spent with porn or cruising for woman, I could have probably got the business off the ground. I am not where I want to be, but I am not where I used to be. I like your blog too. Thank You Right on Dude. Your words are very encouraging for someone that is trying to get away from porn. Letting people know that the time they spend with porn or any addiction is damaging. I like how you point out how people can do much more constructive things. I have a side business that I always wanted to go full time. And now I realize that the time I spent with porn or cruising for woman, I could have probably got the business off the ground. I am not where I want to be, but I am not where I used to be. I like your blog too.
Thank You

]]> By: Sarah in Texas http://www.mikekey.com/how-porn-will-destroy-your-life/#comment-596 Sarah in Texas Fri, 09 Dec 2011 17:57:19 +0000 http://www.mikekey.com/?p=412#comment-596 Thank you for writing this. You are not the only person who feels this way. A lot of my female friends (mid-late 20s) feel this way but have a hard time articulating it the way you did. It is also an unpopular opinion and many are discouraged that they can't openly express these views because they are labeled a prude or unrealistic. I'm not a prude at all - I love the physical and emotional enjoyment of sex - but I find porn incredibly offensive. Nothing about it is realistic. The female enjoyment in porn is completely fake. The techniques men use in these videos to please the women are ridiculous, and men everywhere are being conditioned to believe that is how to be a good lover. I do agree that porn desensitizes frequent viewers and gives them a confused and skewed understanding of real sexuality. All in all, it is just completely damaging. We would all be better off if there was no internet/on-demand porn at all. Men would be forced to focus their sexual energy where it should be - on the real women in their lives. Thank you very much for writing this. You are spot on. Thank you for writing this. You are not the only person who feels this way. A lot of my female friends (mid-late 20s) feel this way but have a hard time articulating it the way you did. It is also an unpopular opinion and many are discouraged that they can’t openly express these views because they are labeled a prude or unrealistic. I’m not a prude at all – I love the physical and emotional enjoyment of sex – but I find porn incredibly offensive. Nothing about it is realistic. The female enjoyment in porn is completely fake. The techniques men use in these videos to please the women are ridiculous, and men everywhere are being conditioned to believe that is how to be a good lover. I do agree that porn desensitizes frequent viewers and gives them a confused and skewed understanding of real sexuality. All in all, it is just completely damaging. We would all be better off if there was no internet/on-demand porn at all. Men would be forced to focus their sexual energy where it should be – on the real women in their lives. Thank you very much for writing this. You are spot on.

]]> By: girl http://www.mikekey.com/how-porn-will-destroy-your-life/#comment-576 girl Thu, 13 Oct 2011 04:37:40 +0000 http://www.mikekey.com/?p=412#comment-576 I really appreciate hearing men talk about pornography this way. People always try to tell me that all guys do it and it is foolish to ask a lover to not view porn. I know there are people out there who recognize the power it can have over people and resist it and work towards maintaining healthy human relationships. That makes me happy. I don't want my sexuality to lie uncultivated due to the availability of an unending cascade of sexual images. I think that although porn is a multi-billion dollar industry, so much porn can be free because of the problems it creats in real life: Self-esteem issues and depersonalization. I think that the costs generated by those issues alone create a market in which the porn itself can be "free". Everyone has to pay for something somehow. If you have the opportunity, make sex with someone you love special. Don't rewire your brain to the novelty of porn and deny yourself the utter excitement of lying with someone you love whose body is for you. I really appreciate hearing men talk about pornography this way. People always try to tell me that all guys do it and it is foolish to ask a lover to not view porn. I know there are people out there who recognize the power it can have over people and resist it and work towards maintaining healthy human relationships. That makes me happy. I don’t want my sexuality to lie uncultivated due to the availability of an unending cascade of sexual images. I think that although porn is a multi-billion dollar industry, so much porn can be free because of the problems it creats in real life: Self-esteem issues and depersonalization. I think that the costs generated by those issues alone create a market in which the porn itself can be “free”. Everyone has to pay for something somehow. If you have the opportunity, make sex with someone you love special. Don’t rewire your brain to the novelty of porn and deny yourself the utter excitement of lying with someone you love whose body is for you.

]]> By: Shayla http://www.mikekey.com/how-porn-will-destroy-your-life/#comment-573 Shayla Mon, 10 Oct 2011 20:41:10 +0000 http://www.mikekey.com/?p=412#comment-573 Thank you for writing this article. Thank you for writing this article.

]]> By: Nadine http://www.mikekey.com/how-porn-will-destroy-your-life/#comment-570 Nadine Sat, 08 Oct 2011 00:55:55 +0000 http://www.mikekey.com/?p=412#comment-570 I am hurting so much as I am writing this letter. In fact I have been hurting terribly for the past 10 years. My partner, that has been addicted to porn, used every single lie and excuse in the book as to why there was no sexual interest, except for the truth. And when the truth was known, the lies continued, that he was not using porn anymore. I believed I loved this person and that things will come right. Well, apparently it has, but I have been so neatly conditioned to be the ultimate unattractive dog, that has been pushed away on more occasions then I care to remember, coupled with the humiliation of trying to be sexy for my partner for years, trying to wear sexy outfits etc etc etc, lying in my bed night after night with a desire for my partner, knowing that he is sexually numb from wanking over his sex goddesses. The betrayel was never ending. Afterall, I was so naive to think that one focusses your sexual energy on your relationship. Now that things has "come right" I do not feel like a woman anymore, I am overweight, I have more inhibitions than a virgin, I have no interest in sex with him or anybody else anymore for that matter, and quite frankly .... I HATE HIM WITH ALL OF MY HEART. Now I am expected as a middle aged woman, with the tag: "DOG" around her neck, to lose her inhibitions with a man she was never good enough for. I realized that I was an absolute dog in his eyes, when I heard for the first time that he appreciated how sexy I was in years, after we both met the most grotesque obese woman. So yes, I was being compred to his sex goddesses 24/7 and was obviously never good enough. I am hurting so much as I am writing this letter. In fact I have been hurting terribly for the past 10 years. My partner, that has been addicted to porn, used every single lie and excuse in the book as to why there was no sexual interest, except for the truth.

And when the truth was known, the lies continued, that he was not using porn anymore. I believed I loved this person and that things will come right. Well, apparently it has, but I have been so neatly conditioned to be the ultimate unattractive dog, that has been pushed away on more occasions then I care to remember, coupled with the humiliation of trying to be sexy for my partner for years, trying to wear sexy outfits etc etc etc, lying in my bed night after night with a desire for my partner, knowing that he is sexually numb from wanking over his sex goddesses. The betrayel was never ending. Afterall, I was so naive to think that one focusses your sexual energy on your relationship.

Now that things has “come right” I do not feel like a woman anymore, I am overweight, I have more inhibitions than a virgin, I have no interest in sex with him or anybody else anymore for that matter, and quite frankly …. I HATE HIM WITH ALL OF MY HEART. Now I am expected as a middle aged woman, with the tag: “DOG” around her neck, to lose her inhibitions with a man she was never good enough for.

I realized that I was an absolute dog in his eyes, when I heard for the first time that he appreciated how sexy I was in years, after we both met the most grotesque obese woman. So yes, I was being compred to his sex goddesses 24/7 and was obviously never good enough.

]]> By: Matt http://www.mikekey.com/how-porn-will-destroy-your-life/#comment-544 Matt Thu, 28 Apr 2011 10:54:06 +0000 http://www.mikekey.com/?p=412#comment-544 Id be willing to bet you wrote and produced this passionate article in a moment and on an evening in which you felt it's message had to be heard and could no longer lie unexposed. I'd also bet you believe God speaks to you and teaches you through your writing. Id also wager you came back to read this article a little down the road, much less filled with the emotion and passion that fueled your pen the night, and questioned yourself; "should I have posted this?", "have I made a mistake?". Well you didn't and whether I'm right or not about all my wagers, I am a struggling Christian man thankful for having been exposed to this article. Everything you wrote was dead on. Don't question it's merit for one second. If We men ever overcome this battle, it'll be because God led us to men that let God lead them. In this case, that is you. Id be willing to bet you wrote and produced this passionate article in a moment and on an evening in which you felt it’s message had to be heard and could no longer lie unexposed. I’d also bet you believe God speaks to you and teaches you through your writing. Id also wager you came back to read this article a little down the road, much less filled with the emotion and passion that fueled your pen the night, and questioned yourself; “should I have posted this?”, “have I made a mistake?”. Well you didn’t and whether I’m right or not about all my wagers, I am a struggling Christian man thankful for having been exposed to this article. Everything you wrote was dead on. Don’t question it’s merit for one second. If We men ever overcome this battle, it’ll be because God led us to men that let God lead them. In this case, that is you.

]]> By: Francis Kings http://www.mikekey.com/how-porn-will-destroy-your-life/#comment-543 Francis Kings Thu, 21 Apr 2011 16:16:35 +0000 http://www.mikekey.com/?p=412#comment-543 Mike, I have to completely agree 100%. It is very addictive and evil. Yea, the circumstances or consequences that resulted from my frequent visits to these porn sites has damaged me physically and emotionally. Visiting these websites can be a gateway for other things. For instance, soft porn wears off pretty quickly and you need something more graphic. Once you get to the hardcore stuff, then you ask yourself, "where can I get just downright nasty?" The tolerance just like with drugs develops and it get out of hand. But after years of doing this, I need "help" in that make love department and I hate it. My wife who is understanding now and patient does get angry when I can't perform. Or even worse, she will ask me if I am still attracted to her or if I am gay?" Those kinds of comments hurt. I would definitely say I am recuperating spiritually and physically. I recently had an physical examination to make sure I am healthy and I passed with flying colors. So, is porn worth it? I would say not. I have been seeking solace in Christ but it has been difficult. I still wrestle with my demons and it won't be easy to overcome them. Write the good fight. Mike, I have to completely agree 100%. It is very addictive and evil. Yea, the circumstances or consequences that resulted from my frequent visits to these porn sites has damaged me physically and emotionally. Visiting these websites can be a gateway for other things. For instance, soft porn wears off pretty quickly and you need something more graphic. Once you get to the hardcore stuff, then you ask yourself, “where can I get just downright nasty?” The tolerance just like with drugs develops and it get out of hand.
But after years of doing this, I need “help” in that make love department and I hate it. My wife who is understanding now and patient does get angry when I can’t perform. Or even worse, she will ask me if I am still attracted to her or if I am gay?” Those kinds of comments hurt. I would definitely say I am recuperating spiritually and physically. I recently had an physical examination to make sure I am healthy and I passed with flying colors. So, is porn worth it? I would say not. I have been seeking solace in Christ but it has been difficult. I still wrestle with my demons and it won’t be easy to overcome them. Write the good fight.

]]> By: OhioDave http://www.mikekey.com/how-porn-will-destroy-your-life/#comment-539 OhioDave Tue, 12 Apr 2011 20:55:26 +0000 http://www.mikekey.com/?p=412#comment-539 There is absolutely no doubt that porn destroys lives and minds. For those with an addictive personality, or who are trying to run away from some distress in their lives, porn is harder to quit than heroin. Why? We have delivered a technology where is costs $0 to get a fix, and the quantities are unlimited. As the addict gets further down the path, more extreme forms of porn are needed to get the rush; finally nothing is off limits. Lesson learned is that we have NO idea what technology will do when we release it to the world. In this case, many people will pay the price for the experiment. For those who say; well it's FREE WILL dude, no one is forcing you to look at it? Either you have never been addicted; or you have no ability to understand the significance of addiction. There is absolutely no doubt that porn destroys lives and minds. For those with an addictive personality, or who are trying to run away from some distress in their lives, porn is harder to quit than heroin.

Why? We have delivered a technology where is costs $0 to get a fix, and the quantities are unlimited. As the addict gets further down the path, more extreme forms of porn are needed to get the rush; finally nothing is off limits.

Lesson learned is that we have NO idea what technology will do when we release it to the world. In this case, many people will pay the price for the experiment.

For those who say; well it’s FREE WILL dude, no one is forcing you to look at it? Either you have never been addicted; or you have no ability to understand the significance of addiction.

]]> By: FAWN http://www.mikekey.com/how-porn-will-destroy-your-life/#comment-530 FAWN Fri, 11 Feb 2011 19:14:28 +0000 http://www.mikekey.com/?p=412#comment-530 I've just read your article, i will pass it on. i agree with you. Thank you for showing me that there are decent men out there who recognises the long term effects of this popcorn culture which has become so accessible to all, so devoid of real love and compassion, so removed from God. Please stand firm with your convictions, i will in turn not compromise mine. From a lady full of grace. I’ve just read your article, i will pass it on. i agree with you. Thank you for showing me that there are decent men out there who recognises the long term effects of this popcorn culture which has become so accessible to all, so devoid of real love and compassion, so removed from God. Please stand firm with your convictions, i will in turn not compromise mine. From a lady full of grace.

]]> By: hornacek http://www.mikekey.com/how-porn-will-destroy-your-life/#comment-496 hornacek Sun, 30 Jan 2011 02:05:13 +0000 http://www.mikekey.com/?p=412#comment-496 wow this is an awesome message . this really went into my heart .. now i really understand how hard is for all the people in the adult industry . thanks god for show me this truth . i was blind but now i can see . thanks you Jesus .. God bless you Shelly wow this is an awesome message . this really went into my heart .. now i really understand how hard is for all the people in the adult industry . thanks god for show me this truth . i was blind but now i can see . thanks you Jesus .. God bless you Shelly

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